Hi cutie,
In today's audio resource, I'll explore the question of, "what if multiple partners share personality traits that stress us out?" Relationships aren't always supplementary; sometimes the struggle gets duplicated. In those cases, wh...
2022-06-12 05:09:48 +0000 UTC View PostGood morning cutie,
I hope your weekend is restful and calm. This week’s been interesting on my end, as my new rescue dog is getting a lot of our attention. My other dog gets very distressed about this, so we’re putting more energy into ...
2022-06-05 12:15:17 +0000 UTC View Post
Good morning cutie,
So I’ve been watching Kat Blaque for years — she mostly makes video essays about media and cultural commentary. But this week I remembered, “oh right! She’s polyamorous and has really great videos in her archive a...
2022-05-29 10:26:18 +0000 UTC View Post
Good morning cutie,
A few folks have reached out to me this week about communication and mental health. Specifically, several patrons are struggling with how to tell someone they're not interested, especially when the reason is mental health...
2022-05-22 13:02:50 +0000 UTC View Post
Hi cutie!
Here is my first live question and answer format video. I'm thinking to make myself available for these once a month or once every other month, moving forward. The goal is to encourage more conversation in this space, and to make m...
2022-05-15 11:18:27 +0000 UTC View PostGood morning, cutie!
Let’s talk today about distinguishing problems from solutions. People often experience a tension or an ache or a desire, and jump to one immediate solution for it. If their partner rejects that idea, it can be seen as ...
2022-05-08 13:00:21 +0000 UTC View PostHappy May Day, cutie!
If you’re American like me, you may not have heard of May Day. It’s an internationally recognized labor day to celebrate the victories of the working class. The day is also tied to regional rituals and festivals tha...
2022-05-01 10:41:55 +0000 UTC View Post
Good morning cutie,
This week, I'm traveling away from my anchor partner, and visiting some friends on the other side of the world. A few plans are with polyam people who I feel varying levels of attraction to and flirtation with, so there's...
2022-04-24 11:00:00 +0000 UTC View Post
Hi there cutie,
I'm always looking for new perspectives and interesting voices in the polyam space for you. After listening to a few episodes of the Monogamish podcast, I wanted to share! Jhen has conversations with other polyam people about...
2022-04-17 09:00:00 +0000 UTC View PostHi cutie,
I’ve gotten a few requests to tackle time management this week, so let’s jump in to some practical solutions for common polyam scheduling stressors. I’ll use a few hypothetical examples here that will hopefully illustrate the...
2022-04-03 16:32:16 +0000 UTC View PostHi there cutie,
I’ve chatted with quite a few people this month who pursued a feeling of security by asking for external markers, such as getting engaged or moving in together. While these are perfectly valid ways to express love, it gets ...
2022-03-27 14:26:40 +0000 UTC View PostGood morning cutie,
I hope your Sunday is peaceful. Today, by request, let's talk about uncoupling emotional security from a sense of primacy in love. (Basically, how do we let go of clinging to external signifiers of "success," or of being ...
2022-03-20 15:59:56 +0000 UTC View PostHi cutie,
Continuing today on the topic of repressed anger, I'll share a bit more about the practical tools that I'm using to work on it.
These are tools that fit me in my current stage of trauma recovery, and I'm using them in c...
2022-03-13 15:32:57 +0000 UTC View Post
Hi cutie,
This week, an aromantic patron requested a resource on amatonormativity (the social assumption that exclusive, romantic love is the end goal for every relationship. This term was coined by 2022-03-06 10:00:00 +0000 UTC View Post
This week has me heartbroken and sleepless with the attacks on Ukraine. So, my mind is on how we can support loved ones through grief. I'll share the kinds of things that my Ukrainian friends are asking for, as well as what helped me during severe...
2022-02-27 12:01:54 +0000 UTC View PostHi cutie,
A patron brought it to my attention this week that I've actually never covered the Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord here. So, let's talk about it!
I'm attaching the PDF to this Patreon post, because it's too large t...
2022-02-20 15:17:32 +0000 UTC View PostHi cutie,
I hope your week has been going smoothly. I celebrated my 35th birthday on Friday, and it got me thinking about temporary, negotiated asymmetries in committed relationships. So, let's talk about it!
What is a temporary asymme...
2022-02-13 13:42:23 +0000 UTC View PostHi cutie,
Let's talk about anger today. Or rather, let's talk about the struggle to even recognize or feel anger. (If this doesn't apply to you, maybe someone in your life experiences it.)
Discovering anger is an ongoing process ...
2022-02-06 14:52:18 +0000 UTC View Post
Hi cutie,
As most of you know, a lot of my personal work is currently on sexuality, unlearning purity culture / shame, and exploring kink through the lens of liberation. That’s why I was so excited to discover sex educator and sex worker L...
2022-01-30 12:13:05 +0000 UTC View PostHi there cutie,
A few patrons reached out to me this month about polysaturation, describing the painful reality of their own relationship being on the chopping block when their partner’s schedule is full. So, let’s talk about it.
I...
2022-01-23 13:30:32 +0000 UTC View PostHi cutie,
Let’s talk today about the "can I do this anymore?" spiral that can happen from time to time. I’ve had several conversations this month with people who are struggling emotionally, experiencing trauma responses, and feeling over...
2022-01-16 11:00:00 +0000 UTC View PostHi there cutie,
Here's the first of two resources for you this weekend. The next will be on Sunday, as normally scheduled. This audio clip unpacks self-shaming thoughts around vices, and the contrived narratives we're fed about some vices ma...
2022-01-07 18:07:16 +0000 UTC View PostGood morning cutie,
In the spirit of gentleness and easing into the new year, I’ll be taking a bit more time on this week’s resource. If you saw my IG Story last week, you have a bit of context, but basically my family of origin is in cr...
2022-01-02 08:08:40 +0000 UTC View Post
Hi cutie!
The lovely Leanne of @polyphiliablog gifted us with a variety of long form, 1-on-1 chats with other polyamorous creators this month.
<... 2021-12-26 11:01:01 +0000 UTC View PostGood morning cutie,
I'm preparing today for an interview with Leanne of @polyphiliablog (stay tuned to her IG; it will be posted on 21 December at 10PM EST). O...
2021-12-19 11:11:55 +0000 UTC View PostHi cutie,
We're deep in the holiday season now, and that often comes with obligatory social interactions. Whether it's visiting our home town, spending time with family of origin, or attending a work party, we're faced with a higher volume o...
2021-12-12 16:17:24 +0000 UTC View PostHi cutie,
I hope your weekend is going well. This week, after speaking with a lot of people about varying jealous experiences, I decided to put together this quick exercise for you all.
It's intended as a check-in of your mental and em...
2021-12-05 12:45:50 +0000 UTC View PostHi cutie,
I hope you’re having a lovely start to your week. I wanted to record a bonus track this week, which is an update to a story I shared on Instagram and TikTok (linked here, if you haven’t seen it: 2021-11-30 13:20:51 +0000 UTC View Post
Hi cutie,
This Thanksgiving weekend, I joined Lauren and Nicole of Coming Out Podcast for a special roun...
2021-11-27 08:00:02 +0000 UTC View Post
Hi cuties,
I was chatting with a patron last week about how many public bathrooms are inaccessible, and remembered this great resource.
Many of you don't identify as cisgender, which can make binary-gendered public bathrooms a hu...
2021-11-14 11:00:01 +0000 UTC View Post