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Added 2024-12-10 15:52:50 +0000 UTCComments
I have a related story that I will share. It will be a little long so if anyone is not interested, it won't hurt my feelings. LOL! I learned the hard way that it is not always wise to tell someone what to do with a relationship that they're in, even if it's toxic. It's probably better to give them good advice BEFORE they are in a bad situation and hope that they keep that advice in mind. Here is the unfortunate story. Katy and I had a friend named Kelly. Kelly used to date my brother, but they split up. Not a bad split, just a split. They remained friends. We still hung out with Kelly because she was a great girl and a lot of fun. She was always upbeat and happy. One day Kelly began dating this guy, and this guy gave us ALL bad vibes. He just seemed like a slimeball. Still, it wasn't my business so Katy and I kept our mouths shut. My brother, however, decided he wanted to find out for sure what this guy was like. So, my brother made up a fake identity as a attractive girl on social media and messaged this guy to flirt. The flirting took place and so my brother escalated it further and eventually set up a time to meet this guy - who agreed. At least, it was something like that. It's been awhile... Once we found out about this, Katy told Kelly about this guy's behavior. Kelly then confronted her boyfriend about it and he blew up ON HER. He threatened to break up with her over what her friends did and she then turned on Katy and I over it! She said she never wanted to speak to us again. She then blocked us both on social media. This was wild, because for one, I didn't do any of it. My brother did the entire operation on his own, and Katy was the one who told Kelly about it. Somehow Kelly not only turned on Katy, but by default I was thrown under the bus too. For some strange reason, Kelly was not mad at my brother - or at least she did not say so - despite it truly being almost all his handiwork to learn about this guy. I wish the lesson to take away from this wasn't to "allow your friends to fuck around and find out on their own", but that was kind of the lesson we learned. I really wasn't involved in this beyond saying that her boyfriend was a douchebag, and Katy wasn't involved beyond passing along the information of what my brother did and uncovered. We got burned over it though and lost a friend that day. Kelly was so captured by this guy that she threw her friends under the bus to stay with this unfaithful guy. How did it all eventually turn out? The only thing I know is that Kelly and this guy are no longer together. I have no idea how long they lasted, because Kelly stopped talking to us. I know they are not together now because years later Kelly finally did reconnect with me on social media (we became "friends" on social media again). I didn't ask her about it as I don't want to step on any land mines. It does appear that she tossed away her friendships over an unfaithful guy that she didn't last with. Based upon how the situation blew up, I would bet anything that she didn't end it with him. I would bet that he ended it with her. This is not only a great example of why you should be very careful in how you handle your friend's relationships - even if they are toxic - but it is also an example of what happens when you're not strong enough to hold true to good principles. In other words, BE JUDGMENTAL. If you feel something is wrong that your partner is doing or has done, be judgmental about it. If it is truly bad, walk away. I had no idea Kelly was going to be that weak; that she would stand with a cheater over her friends trying to protect her. She threw aside her own personal dignity and value simply to be with this guy. That is how bad relationships exist. This is why I have spoken so strongly on this point. If you have good principles and you stick to them, you can avoid these bad relationships. Even if you get into one, you will have the strength to get out of them. You say, "This is what is appropriate for a relationship in my moral code. If you break it, I'm gone. Period." If you don't leave when someone commits a deal-breaking offense, then you're essentially saying that being in a bad relationship is worth more than your personal dignity and self-respect. What are the chances that someone who is willing to do this to themselves ends up finding a healthy relationship? I suggest that the odds are not good. However, if you hold true to your high standards and are willing to walk away from relationships that do not meet your standards... you're less likely to be stuck in bad relationships and are more likely to secure a good one. Anyways... I did it again and went on a rant. You can probably tell that I have strong opinions on this subject. To me, it seems very clear. However, when I look out into the world I see a lot of failing relationships and it seems that this concept isn't that clear to a lot of people. It just makes me want to say something. I hope it doesn't make it seem like I think I have all of the answers. I don't. While Katy and I have a great relationship, we are not perfect. We have some disagreements that we haven't been able to fully resolve, disagreements that have been here from the beginning. It is entirely possible that those disagreements can grow to a point to where they become something more, and if it does we may have to face some hard choices. We are not there, thankfully, and we do our best to simply enjoy and respect one another. I would just like to see less people get hurt and see more people find what they're looking for. I don't think that is possible unless people ARE judgmental about the behavior of their partners and hold true to their values.
Michael@GetFitwithDogs
2024-12-10 21:19:13 +0000 UTCI just checked. It's an urban legend. Apparently, it's almost true. It didn't happen while Twister was playing. https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/twister/
Michael@GetFitwithDogs
2024-12-10 20:30:58 +0000 UTCThat wouldn't shocked me, btw, the "Here's Johnny!" moment in twister is perfect irony and I've yet to see anybody catch that.
Thats MR. Baldamort
2024-12-10 19:51:07 +0000 UTCYeah, she really saved me in a lot of ways. I'm a little hesitant to get another pet because I know the short life span will probably end up breaking my heart. I have a turtle who I love dearly, but chances are good that he will outlive me!
Troy Hickman
2024-12-10 18:48:35 +0000 UTCI don't know if it's true, but I heard that a drive-in movie theater playing Twister got hit by a tornado while the movie was playing.
Michael@GetFitwithDogs
2024-12-10 18:15:30 +0000 UTCI just went and searched for your YouTube and found it to watch that video of Wilson. Adorable rabbit! I am sorry you lost Wilson, but I am sure he gave you a lot of joy. That's the thing about pets... they give you so much but they're only here for a brief amount of time. They can fill your heart, but then leave a hole in it when they're gone. Still worth it, IMO.
Michael@GetFitwithDogs
2024-12-10 18:10:40 +0000 UTCDasha guess what, two things. I have a drive in theatre right outside of town that my family and I go to every summer a few times a year. Its a good time to spend with friends and family if you get the chance at least go once in your life Dasha! Though i do live in tordado ally, and yes last year the drive in gor detroyed TWICE by a tornado after it got rebuilt. Luckily they make ebough money to keep fixing it. I actually live not far from where this movie was fillmed in Iowa so that drive in getting detroyed in the film is pretty accurate 😄
Thats MR. Baldamort
2024-12-10 17:48:49 +0000 UTCThat's absolutely true. There is a saying that I have found to be absolutely on the mark: "we teach people how to treat us.' Part of my problem in the past has been that I was just so happy to have anybody in a relationship with me that I would let them treat me badly rather than be alone. That's no way to live. There are plenty of people out there who will treat you the way you want to be treated, no matter what flaws you think you may have. The great motivational speaker Leo Buscaglia used to say "if you have fat thighs, find yourself a fat thigh lover." I think if we all lived with that philosophy, we would be a lot of happier.
Troy Hickman
2024-12-10 17:40:26 +0000 UTCIt's amazing how attached we become to our pets. I haven't had a dog for a long time, but my most recent pet was my rabbit Wilson. And she absolutely meant the world to me. I was there the night that she was born, and her seven siblings all died right after birth, and her mother died shortly thereafter. So I raised her from when she was just a newborn. Wilson was born with a condition that rabbits get called splayed leg syndrome, where her little arms and legs stuck out away from her body and she could not retract them back in. It made her look like a beanie baby (if you go to my YouTube videos, you can see a video of her moving around in the backyard, kind of throwing herself from place to place since she could not walk). Because the winters would be too hard on her, she lived in my living room with me, and we were constant companions. She would sit in the recliner with me and watch tv, we would lie down together on the futon, and I would take constant care of her. But she took care of me just as much. When I would get down and feel like life was too much for me, I would look at her with her handicaps and her determination to thrive, and she would help me to go on. I loved that little bunny rabbit more than I could ever tell you. She died 2 years ago on December 23rd, and I still have the little Christmas tree up from that time because I just can't bring myself to take it down. Dasha has said before that we don't deserve our dogs, and I would extend that to our pets in general. We owe them a gratitude we will never be able to repay.
Troy Hickman
2024-12-10 17:29:03 +0000 UTCThat's a good rule! I have seen more failed relationships than successful ones, and I can tell you there absolutely seems to be a correlation between what people put up with and how successful they tend to be in relationships. It isn't so much what a person says about how they would treat their partner, but about how you will allow yourself to be treated. That to me is the key. I've noticed that people who are very permissive of disrespectful behavior tend to have more bad relationships. Whether they want it or not, their unassertiveness contributes to how they get treated. People who set firm boundaries on what behavior they will put up with... they tend to be the ones who end up in a healthy relationship. Sure, they may have to kick a few incompatible partners out along the way, but in the end it will pay off for them. Be judgmental! Be fair, but also be judgmental. Just my opinion.
Michael@GetFitwithDogs
2024-12-10 17:26:38 +0000 UTCYou're exactly on the mark there, Michael. When it comes to stuff like relationships, I have always had a strict code of conduct. You don't do anything that shows disrespect to your partner. I'm the most faithful and trustworthy person you're likely to meet, but I would still never do anything that could even give the appearance of improper conduct. It's just the Golden rule; I know how I like to be treated and I'm going to treat the woman I love in the same way.
Troy Hickman
2024-12-10 17:18:57 +0000 UTCAround the 9:40 minute mark, Dasha is talking about how if she were Melissa she would be pissed off about Bill going with Jo on the tornado chase, and wonders if she is being judgmental. Yes, you are being judgmental. BUT... I think you are RIGHT to be judgmental. It's not about a lack of trust in your partner, in my opinion. It's about respect. For some reason, in society we've come to a point where people say that you shouldn't judge or be upset if you trust your partner in situations like this, but I think that is all wrong. I think that if you respect your partner you wouldn't put them in an unnecessary position where they have to think about how much they trust you. I also think that if you make it clear that being disrespected is unacceptable to you, you'll find yourself in relationships where your partner is less likely to disrespect you. Establishing strong boundaries for yourself is good. Don't ever let anyone tell you that you shouldn't feel disrespected in a situation like that, if that is how you feel. Even if I trust my girl, I don't trust the OTHER person. My girl should not be putting me in a situation like that, and the same goes for guys to their partners. Just my thoughts.
Michael@GetFitwithDogs
2024-12-10 16:46:00 +0000 UTC"I am very attached to my dog..." - Dasha I know EXACTLY what you mean. Growing up I had a lot of friends, and even to this day I still have those friends even if we do not see each other often anymore. I bring that up because Kinjo (my male Akita dog) is my best friend these days. I am not just saying that and I am not ashamed of it. I love to take him with me EVERYWHERE. So much so that Katy is always getting annoyed with me about it. Nearly every time we decide to go out somewhere together, she always adds "But no dogs!" She and I alternate vacation destination choices every year. Her choice is always the beach - and NO DOGS! My choice is always the mountains, and I am bringing Kinjo with me. That is not an option when it's my choice for a vacation. We were at Panama City Beach, Florida in May, so in 2025 it's going to be my choice again for a vacation. Right now, Estes Park in Colorado is what I am looking at. My attachment to Kinjo (and him towards me) is probably the #1 thing Katy and I have arguments over. I get that I can't have him with me ALL of the time, as she wants to have me alone, just us. But, he is my best bud and taking him with us places at least SOME of the time is a battle I am willing to fight her on. I should add, it's not that Katy is not a dog person. She is. She's just not on my level as a dog person. I posted a meme on her Facebook page (which is on my Instagram right now) that shows a guy and his girl in a car and the guy says, "Oh look! A dog!" and the girl says, "I hate dogs." The next image is the guy still in the car, only now with the dog in the seat that was occupied by the girl. You see the girl outside of the car being left behind with a frown on her face. I loved that meme and had to post it on her page to tease her. On the other hand, she dishes it right back out at me. I mentioned here before that she posted a meme on my Facebook that said, "My husband just walked in, told the dog how cute he is, and how much he loves him. Held his face in his hands, stared into his eyes, and gave him forehead kisses. Then he left the room. I'm sitting right next to the dog." So she got me back on social media with the meme teasing. LOL!
Michael@GetFitwithDogs
2024-12-10 16:18:06 +0000 UTC
