Big Daddy - Youtube Version
Added 2025-01-23 14:00:14 +0000 UTCI think this is the cutest kid I have ever seen on screen
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Absolutely, both relationships with parents matter. A functioning two-parent household is ideal. This is one reason why people should be very careful about who they create a family with. My sister-in-law is going through that now, and her bad choice is really wrecking her mentally as she deals with trying to salvage an unsalvageable situation. I was closer to my mom growing up. My dad was always the one you feared when it came to discipline. He was always a very calm, cool, and collected man... but when he lost his temper with us (always our fault, us rowdy boys) we knew we had fucked up. Mostly, he was just the iron hand that came in when needed, but mostly my mom handled us boys. After my dad passed unexpectedly last year, I began seeing my mom in a light that I never saw before and I've come to appreciate my father more. I wish that I had more time to tell him this. Shit, this is bringing tears to my eyes as I type this. Ugh, I haven't shed tears over my dad in many months, but I guess the pain of loss never truly fades away. I've realized after his passing just how much he was the glue that kept the family together. Even if he did it quietly and more "behind the scenes" than my mom, who was usually front and center in our upbringing. Anyways, the only point I am making is that fathers might be more important to the family than they first appear to be, even if they seem to be operating more in the background.
Michael@GetFitwithDogs
2025-01-25 14:56:32 +0000 UTCI think both relationships with parents are matter. I’m personally closer with my mom and sister but with dad I always have a male support much needed. If dad treats daughter like a princess it will set up a whole different relationship with man and give confidence otherwise a girl might not have 🤷🏻♀️
Dasha
2025-01-25 03:09:23 +0000 UTCI agree, but what is interesting is the disparate results between kids raised with single mothers and kids raised with single fathers.
Michael@GetFitwithDogs
2025-01-24 03:32:22 +0000 UTCIll keep is simple. Generally speaking of gender roles: Fathers teach the nature of the life, mothers teach to nurture. You need a balance of both for a child, yin/yang. Which is why when you have a kid that lives with either of the parents full time, lets say after a divorce for example. There is an imbalance with the child's teachings and upbringing unless they find another motherly or fatherly figure to fill the void, hence mommy issues or daddy issues when they get older. A child needs both parents, or at least a some semblance of both parents weather its adopted or biological at young age like toddler to pre teen or else that kid gonna have psychological issues later in life, generally speaking.
Thats MR. Baldamort
2025-01-24 02:12:50 +0000 UTCMichael, first of all, I probably have you beat for the interfamily relationships. The people in my family are so intertwined by marriage that our family tree pretty much only has one branch. Why do you think I am so interested in seeing a reaction to Deliverance? 😂 Maybe it's not a matter of saying that fathers are better parents, but that their particular role is very pivotal in the formation of who kids become. As I've said, that's why it's so ridiculous to hear anyone say that fathers are non-essential. I think I have told you guys that my own family was basically organized crime. Pretty much all of my uncles were very serious criminals, and you can probably trace it right to my maternal grandfather. He was a terrible alcoholic, literally was never around with the exception of those few times he would wander back into town hoping to either borrow or scam some money from someone. My grandmother had to go out and work to support everyone, and so my mother, the second oldest child, raised my uncles without a male figure around. You reap what you sow. Luckily, my mom had my dad around when my siblings and I were being raised, and while my mom did most of the discipline, you really didn't want it to get to the point where my dad was brought into the fray.
Troy Hickman
2025-01-23 23:10:13 +0000 UTCI have 6 Styx CD's: Styx Greatest Hits, Equinox, Crystal Ball, The Grand Illusion, Pieces of Eight and Paradise Theatre.
Stuart Guthrie Jr.
2025-01-23 22:21:50 +0000 UTCThe stats bear that out as well. I am not making a judgment about "who is a better parent" but just to point out the stats that children from single mother households tend to have more issues than kids from single father households. There can be a lot of debate on why that is, and I don't know that I would say it's because "fathers are better parents", but those households do seem to have less trouble. That is a very interesting subject. From personal experience - and I mentioned this here before - that when my uncle had a stroke and lost the ability to speak, he no longer was involved in discipline for his two girls. The mom took that role over herself, and she did a piss poor job of it. Without their strong father figure in the picture, their behavior went bad quickly. Here is another interesting note about that situation... and I encourage people to actually THINK about this before saying something silly like "incest!". My mom's sister married my dad's brother. So my mom knew my dad from High School and always had a crush on him but he wasn't interested in her then. Years later they met again and began dating. Shortly after that, my dad's brother was introduced to my mom's sister, and they got married and had kids. My mom and dad had 2 boys together (and one boy from my mom's previous marriage) and my aunt & uncle had two girls. So our blood relation was very close. Both sets of kids came from the same two families. More than that, they lived only a few miles from us, so we were always at each others houses. Even though they were my cousins, they were about as close to siblings as you can get. The point of all of this is the differences in outcomes. My dad was always in the picture as a functioning parent. My cousins lost their dad in the picture after his devastating stroke that nearly killed him. In a way it did, because he was never the same man afterwards. The lack of a father figure involved in their lives and discipline likely played a big role in the outcome. Despite being essentially the same kids and having grown up in the same area with the same income thereabouts, one set grew up largely without a father figure and one did. My brothers and I weren't perfect, but we also turned out better.
Michael@GetFitwithDogs
2025-01-23 22:13:46 +0000 UTCI'm not sure about bonding. What we do know is that it's very important for both young boys and girls to form a serious attachment to a strong male role model, whether it's a father, a grandfather, an uncle, a friend of the family, etc. When little boys don't have that bond, it creates what is known as hyper-masculinization, a condition where young boys become what they think men are supposed to be because they don't have that role model. It's why far too many inner city males, 75% of whom don't have a strong male in the picture, have a greater tendency to become gang members and thugs, because they think that a man is supposed to be aggressive and violent. A similar thing happens to young girls who are deprived of a fatherly presence, because they don't have a yardstick by which to judge how a man should act, and they end up picking really bad men as their partners. It's interesting, because you can see how much these kids really need it. I remember I used to live in this big apartment complex, and when I would be outside working on my car or something, there would always be little boys coming over and watching me and asking me what I was doing and such. It's because the majority of women who lived at those apartments were single mothers, and the little boys just naturally gravitated toward the only male figures around them. It's one of the reasons I get so irate when I hear people say that men are unnecessary.
Troy Hickman
2025-01-23 21:21:06 +0000 UTCDo you think girls tend to bond with fathers more than mothers, and sons to their mothers more than fathers? I am curious as to what people think about this. From my life I've noticed that this is not always the case, but does seem to tend to be that way more than not.
Michael@GetFitwithDogs
2025-01-23 16:51:43 +0000 UTCDon’t Google “Big Daddy”….
Doce
2025-01-23 15:26:24 +0000 UTCThe cutest baby you have ever seen? Apparently my mom never showed you our home movies of me as a 3-year-old standing up in a plastic wading pool and peeing. I was quite a squirt...😉 Styx is also one of my favorite bands. Adam Sandler movies tend to have pretty good music. If you would like to see another movie with a great scene involving McDonald's not serving breakfast after 10:30, you must watch the awesome film Falling Down. As someone who has talked about your drive to work, you will appreciate it. Another movie that will fill you with baby fever is one of my favorite films, Enemy Mine. Dash, trust me, you will love that movie. Thank you for again starting my day off with a smile. You have given me more great mornings than pancakes and sausages...♥️
Troy Hickman
2025-01-23 14:40:23 +0000 UTCLooking forward to this reaction.
Stuart Guthrie Jr.
2025-01-23 14:12:51 +0000 UTC
